"If I am not nice, I must be mean, and if I am mean, I am not Good." The Curse of the Good Girl by Rachel Simmons
As I have been reading this book (and not very quickly I might add), these words jumped out at me. It tries to make everything black and white. It tries to make everything so simple. It sums up the actual "curse" we are discussing here as simplistic and easy to define.
However, we know as adults, as parents, as friends, as spouses, that nothing is black and white. Nothing is that simple in relationships. The relationship with ourselves, with our mates, with our friends. In no way can we pretend that there is a black and white. One right and one wrong.
Don't get me wrong - we try to make it that way at times. We want that simplistic easy answer. We, like young girls, want to know exactly what is right and wrong, good and bad, and what will be the right decision. However, when we try to make the decision that simple, we fail to acknowledge or all of the insecurities we have. We fail to acknowledge that we make mistakes - mistakes from which we can learn to become the ladies and women we want to be.
Instead we pretend just like the young girls in the book we are reading. I think many of us are pretending still...
However, society continues The Curse of the Good Girl as we get older...anyone know SuperMom?
